You know what to do then. Make the 180. I bet YOU will feel better for it, and be a happier person.
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I feel like one instance of me being unnecessarily terse completely wipes out ALL progress with the many other 180's I am doing well with.
It kind of does. It's crazy how quickly the good deeds can be forgotten when you revert to an old, ingrained behavior that reminds her why she is leaving. 180, 180, 180.
The behavior is indeed ingrained. I 2x4 myself as the words come out sometimes. I guess many of us have our hard-case 180's that we wrestle with, this one is mine. I do know what to do and need absolute consistency with it. Stop being a terse ahole for no reason other than to wave the alpha flag. Being alpha doesn't mean being an ahole. Don't conflate the two. Get it together man!
