Next time she wants to meet for dinner "Sorry, I'm very busy right now." Don't cater to her. Make her miss you.
Thanks Steve,
Yeah, point taken & it was my first thought too.
I'm quoting this because you've already agreed to meet her again? If you asked her to meet for no reason, would she do that? Probably not, right? So why are you doing that for her? She snaps her fingers and boom, you're there!
Maybe you can just ask her what she wants via text/email as you have pressing business Saturday. It is Saturday after all, the most fun day of the week.
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It's been 22 years,I feel the relationship is owed some processing to understand what went wrong, so as we can move forward with new relationships in due course, understanding how we individually contributed to its demise of ours so as not to occur again by going to see a counselor to talk about it
Do you normally talk like this? It sounds like weirdo talk to me.
If she wants separation or divorce, delaying it or standing in her way is going to make her want it more. If you remove yourself from her path, maybe she will wonder if you were ever the problem - or at least as big a problem as she thought.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
