Yes, when I’ve made dinner recently I haven’t been serving her. However, she cleared my plate for me last night, and that kinda opened my eyes. She’s not the enemy, nor am I, and I should take the high road, but yes it’s so hard because I feel so betrayed and hurt.
I’ll remove the “but’s” from my validating statements. I’ve been doing my best to remove ‘you’ statements (though I have heard these from her, but I’ve said nothing about it—don’t want to fight about that), and I’ve been trying to communicate my needs better, “I need you to.....” instead of can you or would you.
I totally feel like the bad guy in all this (even though I know that is not totally the case), and I don’t want to be the bad guy anymore—objectively, or to her.
God, I’m such a mess right now and I feel like whatever I’m doing is just making things worse. Sometimes think that she’s right to do this—that she does deserve better and I’m not worthy of being married to her, and I can totally see why she’d want to leave.
