#11 - Piecing is hard!

[kiro]

Steve, thanks for sharing. If this is the case, then your sitch seems to be about getting along and fixing many of your MR issues. I think that you should accept that it is Ok that at some point in the future, you both could decide to end the MR as long as you give it your best and that you both come to a mutual agreement. This wouldn't make you a WAS. But you're not there yet.

I agree with others that love is a choice. But feelings are emotions that can go up and down because they're influenced by many things, including hormonal changes, stress, etc. I'd recommend working on your MR habits and the emotional connection by adding loving and kind acts and not worrying about complicated relationship issues at this point. Once you implement more loving habits (date nights, gifts, hugging, etc.) and you feel closer to each other emotionally, you can then address certain issues such as what you described about your W.

If later on, after all emotions have calmed down and you both still think that you will be happier separately, then you can talk about it openly. I'm sure you know that already...