Unfortunately in about 99% of cases the judge rubber stamps the recommendations in the report. WW coached the kids what to say for the report and it goes with what the kids have said in her favour. The kids even told me that WW had told them what to say.
WW is also frightening the kids saying she won't allow them a passport else I would take them away and never bring them back, told them not to tell me she's opening a bank account for them else I would take all their money, telling them how much she's spent on legal fees, telling them she's going to buy them a big new house etc. At public change-overs (which are specified in the current court agreement and my idea) she says to them that they don't have to go to me and that she won't allow me to "force them" to go with me and asks the kids if she should call the police. She is extremely smart and extremely manipulative.
At a changeover (which has to be in a public place) she put the kids in thin summer clothes on a freezing winter night and told them I was forcing them to walk home with me in the cold. If I allow her to take them to my house then she kicks off causing trouble in private. It's relentless and it's harming the kids. There's nothing I can do except not go down to her level. I don't react. I stay cool but what she's doing is working on one of the kids who is turning into a nervous wreck and WW is even blaming that on me. However, the kid is only a nervous wreck when with WW, not at all when with me.
I've been a SAHD for about 10 years, the main carer for them, still in the family home where they've lived all their lives, just around the corner from their school. The only way WW could win is to try to turn the kids against me and try to get me into trouble and that's what she's been trying to do. She tried to get me into trouble with the police but fortunately I had text message evidence from her showing what she claimed wasn't true. She's put those claims back into her latest court statement despite the judge saying they shouldn't be. But what ultimately matters is the report the judge acts upon and that is what I'm going to contest. The odds are massively against me and it will cost a fortune but the kids are better living with me and I'm putting them first.
