Spoke with the L. WW and I can file as no fault and assets will be divided 50 50 and custody 50 50 for very minimal cost. WW makes quite a bit more than I do, has more 401K, more stocks etc. My L advised that I could take a cash settlement from the WW instead of having to divy up the retirement etc. I am thinking that WW can refinance the house and give me the equity and also give me a cash payment with her bonus.

The L did sense that I have a smidgen of hope in me and said that he thinks that its wise that I deal with this at the pace I want to. AKA don't just jump on it and file myself.

So that being said, should I try and approach the WW to see if she can agree to just file together? When the time comes?

M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019