Thanks again, Steve, for the advice and good intentions.
I don't put W on a pedestal (or under a pedestal, although at times....). I like to think I have enough courage and decency to validate W's emotional reality, even as I see her weaknesses, just as she has been in times past, patient and forgiving with mine.
She is neither Godess, nor Devil--only the partner she once was and whom I hope will one day again be.
I think it's possible and (for me) desirable to both take responsibility for myself, while imaginatively validating the reality of the other. At least on good days.
