Monogamy strikes me increasingly as a social contract running counter to biology.
More and more I am coming to the conclusion that monogamy should be viewed as ONE option of many. I came across some really interesting stuff about open relationships and hearing some folks who are doing it - the most honest and transparent discussion about open relationships is from Aubrey Marcus (he has a podcast where's he's delved deeply into it), and it really made me want to understand it more. Also, reading Sex at Dawn was eye opening when it comes to understanding evolutionary biology and sex.
Anyways, my point is that marriage as a social contract might not be the best option for some people and sometimes we realize that way too late, or we ignore what we really want to follow the 'rules'. I am still scratching my head to understand 'why' I agreed to 'marriage' in the first place. For the life of me I can't think of a single reason aside from the fact that it was what I was 'supposed' to do - fall in love, get married, have kids, live happily forever. I don't think I did the first of those two with clear reasoning and open eyes.
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MY choice is simple and binary: wait or move on.
That is a false binary.
1. Moving On - the LBS has made the decision to end the MR and explore other relationships. This decision is in the hands of the LBS.
2. Moving Forward - the LBS is still standing for the marriage, and they are simultaneously engaged in personal growth, getting a life, and detaching and reclaiming themselves. Standing does not equal waiting.
Just go live your life and pursue your goals and all of that. You're moving forward.
