W's choices and behavior are complex. Yes, W CAN achieve individuation within the M. As long as it doesn't drive me up the wall, understanding why she chooses not to helps me deal not just with her but others. As long as it's not self-destructive, efforts at empathy and compassion are aspects of MY individuation and how I define myself; acting otherwise would be inauthentic.
Disagree. There is also move on while you wait. This is DBing! You aren't giving up on your MR, but you are doing things (180s, GAL, detachment) that are also you moving on. And it can be quite effective.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
