She will begin to slide and show him the real person she is, exiting how that folds out (not saying this out of expectations - because I don't need a teenager in my life, I already got two little angels that takes up my time).
So when I read this I am hearing that the real person is not a very likable person and OM will dump her. If this is the case, why do you want her back so badly?
Originally Posted by Hurt213
I cleaned the house, then went to gymnastics with my two little ones for 2 hours.
Why are you cleaning the house for her? That is approval seeking behavior.
Originally Posted by Hurt213
Apparently WW was gonna cook up some pasta (its easy, and she does this way to often), so I had bought some chicken, broccoli's and rice. When we arrived home, she had cooked it, and the kids liked it. She even said, that it tasted really good.
So you bought her dinner? Approval seeking behavior.
Originally Posted by Hurt213
I tugged in the kids, then she wanted to small talk about the kids. I validated her feelings as much as I was able to and then I told her, that I had an appointment and really had to get going, said goodbye and left.
I am just curious to what you are validating. Can you give an example?
Originally Posted by Hurt213
I texted her "Happy birthday, WW. In the dresser you will find something from the kids". She texted "Uuuh, how interesting, I am so exited and will tjek it out immediately". Seconds later "Awwwww, that was so sweet, Hurt... Thank you, it means a lot (heart emoji) (blushing smiley)." <--- Didn't respond to either. There was no mention of any of this being from me. It was small gesture presents from the kids and nothing more.
Again approval seeking behavior and you where looking for a reaction. Do you know how I know? You mentioned the emojis. Then by not responding to her thank you you are trying to justify more approval seeking behavior.
Originally Posted by Hurt213
So, today I am working, doing some groceries for D4s birthday party friday for her daycare. Then a 2 hour workout followed by an early sleep at parents place.
That's awesome!
Originally Posted by Hurt213
The thought of WW actually being a ghost of the past. That the person I love(d), is no more. That is a really strong mental help for me. I say it to myself whenever I feel like im beginning to spin or going down cheesless tunnels (mind reading her actions or behaviors).
You are really spinning Hurt. All your posts are about her.
Originally Posted by Hurt213
The only thing I thought about when she asked was, hey... I get another day with the kids, and have no plans, so absolutely.
Yep that is the only thing that matters.
H,
This is really hard and you are having a difficult time but you have to know that nothing you do is going to effect the outcome. Every time you do something nice for her it just lowers your value in her eyes. I really wish you could see her for what she really is right now. I dislike her more then any WW on this board for the way she is treating you.
