If you don't want to be married anymore, then get a divorce. But the hard date I don't get. I think you are hoping that day becomes and ultimatum and a deadline and she does some 180 at crunch time. But we all know that won't be a real 180. her decision to work on herself will be one she builds up to and happens over time. You don't want her just running back because you put some hardline date on the divorce thing.
Agreed. Did if you do a hard deadline it should be privately for YOU. I had my deadline for how long I'd wait for my W to fully commit back to the marriage AND start putting in the work. I had that in my signature. Note, I NEVER told her. As Ginger said, she will see it as manipulation on your part AND/OR use it for manipulation on her part. So don't give her the deadline. Just set it for yourself and when it passes go file for D.
Last edited by Steve85; 01/09/1902:00 PM.
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