Divorced but not done..advice for LBH on WAW

[SteveLW]

Hi,

First post here, looking for some advice on what to do after divorce.

Some back story: Wife left 2 years ago, came back, "wanted to work on things", but never really tried, Divorce was final about 6 months ago.

Typical WAW, everything was my fault, re-wrote our marital history, I was "abusive", etc. I went to counseling, worked on me, did everything she asked. Found out about Divorce busters too late (right before divorce was final) and realized I had been chasing her and it was not helping the situation.

I couldn't find any major evidence of an affair,


Anyway, I guess I my biggest question is: How can I win my wife back if we have virtually no contact?

Kids are picked up/dropped off at school, no texts or phone calls (maybe an occasional text about kids schedule or school event)

So I don't ever talk to her or see her. I need to just move on, but for I feel like I can't.... if I move on am I accepting it? I never wanted the divorce and I really want us to be a family again. It feels weird saying that after she divorced me and put me through h3ll this past year and a half. But I believe in Christian forgiveness.

Any help or thoughts are appreciated!

"How can I win my wife back if we have virtually no contact? "

Here is the answer to your question:

The best way to win your wife back is by having virtually no contact with her!

You admit to chasing her until you found DB. Look up the LRT. That is your best option at this point.

At the start of my sitch a very wise, anti-divorce expert gave me this advice: Do not dwell on how you can change your wife's mind, you cannot. When we will she come back? When she is ready to come back. And not a second before. For many in your shoes the WAW comes back too late. IE the LBH has found someone new and moved on. The key here is to not hold back your own life waiting for her. For some reason the minute the LBH TRULY moves on is the minute the WAW decides she made a mistake and wants to come back.

The tighter you hold on the less likely she will be to come back. Let her go.