I said this in an earlier post, but I think the idea of ‘bird-nesting’ that she proposes is laughable. So we’re supposed to maintain 2 residences, and rotate between them? She wants out, why doesn’t she leave? LOL.
Hmm, If you split up, you'd also be supporting 2 residences, so I do not see this as a problem.
Originally Posted by Bo562
I know, I know—believe nothing they say, but: It’s weird hearing that she says she wants to be done. What’s the rush? Am I that terrible of a partner? I can’t help but feel a bit sad about that. But between our convo and the parenting plan, it’s clear to me she’s done her homework. I wonder what else there is going on here.
Tu put is simply, she wants to be done, so she can start the next chapter of her "fairy tale". I know this $hit is hard and one cannot help but to question oneself. Did you make mistakes? Sure you did. could you have been a better husband and a better father? Sure you could. You are not perfect, no one is. Did your actions warrant her abandoning the marriage? Deffo not. She clearly forgot that line "...to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part...". She most deffo forgot the worse part and especially the until death do us part. So to answer your question, no, you most probably have NOT been that $hitty husband to warrant any of it.
Times will come when you will be doubting yourself and in my recollection these feelings come in waves, but the further along you are, the less they will affect you. You have to step up your game and become the best dad you can and you also have to better yourself. You have room for improvement, we all have that.
