I think I am letting this go- I do believe she is under the influence of something and I sense she was needing to apologize for her part and at the same time grasp for answers to try to fix her mess, which I obviously cant do and would not want to I feel so far away from this chaos and my life is really good without them- <snip> I will energetically send her forgiveness and good wishes hoping that both she and XH find their way to Healing God and peace
xoxo
Dearest Peace, I'm sure this was shocking to read at first. I'm glad you are letting this go. Perhaps she needed to apologize, if so - good for her for making the effort. Dragging your D into it with her D? bizarre logic on the OW's part, but then again, consider the source.
Best course I think is the one you've settled on - energetically sending forgiveness and good wishes. The rest is up to God.
xoxoxoxo Much love to you now and in 2019
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Wow. She sounds like a hot mess. On the one hand, i would not mind a message like that. I feel like it would give me some validity. On the other hand, when your that far out and healed i could see it feeling like rubbing an old wound. I think jobs post about her using you as the common enemy makes a lot of sense. Or perhaps, shes seeking validation as well. She didnt actually apologize or refer to her role in it though, so i doubt its a true remorse. Maybe she just wants proof that he really is bad.
I once had a cheating ex's other woman call me maybe 5 or 6 years later. (Not my ex husband but my 1st boyfriend) i was aquaintances with her, and she actually asked me why i never warned or or told her how bad he was. (He was very abusive) . She went out him knowing we were dating!!! Or that we were on fringe of breaking up. He only knew her because of me. By that time i was competely indifferent, so it left me amused at most. Amd surprised that she had wasted that many years of her life with him, and relieved that it wasnt me. And he was only a boyfriend, not a husband or father of my child.
Anyway, my hatred for walkaways makes me love hearing these types of stories and i have to confess, its a fantasy of mine to get the choice of how to adress something like this. So im living a bit vicariously through you. Yes, i know ow its better to just be indifferent.
What OW does not realize is she also played a big part in XH current state of mind and unsucess
while XH was with me for 14 years.. he was a sober, sane man running a successful business and good father he had everything
while with her--well we can only guess by the messages she sent he is spiraling deeper down into the dark so she is wrong..it is not just him it is their union that created his demise
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
