Whirlwind of Hurt 7

[Twofeet]

TF,

I'll be in the same boat as you once mine is final from the Catholic faith aspect. I still have another 6 or so weeks to go before an order can even be signed (60 day statutory waiting period). Are you going to proceed with the annulment process right away? I think I'm going to once the decree is signed, sealed and delivered.

Wanted1,

It was recommend that once the D is final to proceed with annulment because everything is still fresh in your mind. I haven't decided what I am going to do. I have talked to a couple of people who have been granted and a few who have been denied annulment. I need to talk to a priest next. The problem that I am seeing is that its not looking good. We were so traditional, straight laced and by the book while we dated and up to the sacrament of marriage that it may not be granted. What I think some Catholics don't realize is that if its declined you are supposed to remain celibate until the death of your spouse (or if your spouse comes back), otherwise you cannot not receive communion and you are committing mortal sin (adultery). Its a big nasty pill to swallow and I don't know what to think about it right now. I have read that it has caused quite a few people (seems like LBS types) to walk away from the church.
I am not even ready to think about an R right now so I have time to process it. Mostly I just need to focus on bettering my life for myself and my kids.