A WS/WAS/MLC who is struggling probably mentally, but definitely emotionally. The people that I know who would drink in the shower were typically alcoholics and/or people using it as a coping mechanism.
My W who was never much of a drinker started going out to the bars and driving home intoxicated. No idea if she still does it now as she lives in her own house. Just be aware.
W’s not closer to there, yet. But I’m sure she’s struggling emotionally and probably also mentally, too.
If / when I have a drink, it would usually be out in the open. MBR, or in the living room, or maybe while cleaning in the kitchen (?) Point is, it would be out in the open.
Originally Posted by Vapo
Typical of a wayward wife situation. They seem to crave for that buzz. The buzz of slight intoxication, the buzz of a secret affair, some even start experimenting with lighter drugs (weed,...). The point is they really sound, look and act like they are possessed. The telltale sign is the eyes, when the look in their eyes is empty. This really is quite terrifying. This phenomenon is called shark eyes, pretty much everyone describes the empty eyes. Another couple of symptoms are:
- obsessive exercise, - completely different look (radically different hair style, different youngish clothes, tattoos, piercings,...), - taking up learning a new musical instrument, - if their parents had marital problems, it is quite likely that they will also, - drinking, - smoking, - looking up long lost friends or boyfriends from years ago. .
I really haven’t seen the ‘shark eyes,’ but I also haven’t looked for it. Though I’ve been trying to look her in the eyes more, but that is rather hard for me right now (also been trying to look her in the eyes and think ‘ILY’ while doing that).
She has been getting more into exercise (wouldn’t say obsessive)—she was really fit / really good shape before pregnancy because she was trying to pass the physical fit test for a promotion. She looked great and was in great shape, and she wants to get back into that shape, just to be that fit / strong again.
W and I both have parents who have had problems—hers D’ed when she was around 6-ish, mine split when I was 22 but there were problems pretty much the whole time, tbh. W believes that she will be much better off—it worked for her parents, she came out fine (?), and her parents get along / work together so WHY CAN’T WE? I was hoping I would be different, and that we would be different—shows you what I know.
Also, the drinking. That’s pretty much it that I see / know. Who knows about long-lost friends or BFs, though.
But no question—she seems totally different from the W that I married—I wouldn’t quite say possessed, but just way different.
Even with her tone towards me last night—in conversation, but also in the text “I need an answer....” and “I told you to tell me....”
