Determined now as I move forward..

[Dtrmned]

An update for those that have been helping and following.
Not much has happened since the blow up except that W has went as dark as she can be. I actually have welcomed that and things are calmer and quieter. Issues are still out there regarding finance, bills, etc. that have to be dealt with. Unfortunately, W does not want to discuss or communicate on these issues so they are left to me to deal with. With the 3 exchanges that happened since over the holidays, we had zero interaction on 2 of them and a small information exchange on the last one.

She is very upset at me since I called her out on a few things during the blow up and she knows that she can't play the "victim" role any longer. Her lies and deceit are out there and she knows that I know so I think she went dark for embarrassment, shame and her usual "curl up and don't deal with and it will go away" views on life.

D was talking to me that she is severely concerned about her mom as she has lost more weight and there may be a very serious health issue. W is 5'8 and now weighs under 110lbs. Prior to having children, when we started dating 21 years ago, she weight 125. That was without the breast enhancement after our son for her self esteem. I didn't oppose it (a little LOL there), but it was totally her choice. Whether she was 170lbs (not pregnant) or whatever weight, I've always viewed her as my beautiful, amazing, desireable wife. If you do the BMI math, that puts her at an anorexic level. But my D thinks my W is in denial about the issue because she thinks it is very bad and refuses to go see a doctor about it. I listened and validated with my D and just told her to support her mom. My other concern is that this may be a medical issue, a major depression issue or a drug abuse issue. Or a combination of the 3. I don't know what else I can do except support my D through this. My W will not share any of this with me (especially if it is the later 2 issues).

Other than that, I'm just plugging along with the GAL's. I enjoy my kids when I have them. and DB'ing everything I can.