Discuss this with your L. Given that your W wants to play hardball, perhaps you should not be giving her ANY concessions right now. I would only do what you are legally obligated to do, which right now might be nothing. Assuming this is legal I would cut ALL support immediately and let her come crying to you about it. Use it to negotiate better visitation with your kids. But again, consult your L. You don't want to do anything that paints you in a bad light in the court's eyes, so your L may have other advice.
Great stuff! You're really doing an excellent job of preparing. How are you feeling?
I have an email out to my L to discuss her thoughts on this. I don't want to feed her victim card, but I don't want to appear to be a spiteful jerk to the court either. Some careful ground to tread.
I am doing ok right now I think. It helps to not be near them, because I have time to deal with all of this and I spend less time thinking about the situation and asking the 'Why?' questions. I have my moments of frustration and anger, they are fleeting at best. I miss my life, but I don't miss my W, if that makes sense. I am currently trying to figure out if I was actually happy in my M, or just comfortable and adapted to my M. I am not sure right now, although I lean most days towards comfortable.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
