I thought over the past 10-12 months I attempted to make 180s on things she wanted me to work on. But then she brought this up. Feels like it’s that I ‘always’ do this or I ‘never’ do that. That she doesn’t see (or doesn’t care to see) any sort of positive changes that I’ve made.
Well yeah, welcome to WAS-land! They always speak in absolutes (always, never) and no matter what you do now it's never good enough, or it's branded as "too little too late". If they give you a list of grievances and you fix every single one, then they'll draft up another list. It's like a shooting gallery where when you shoot a target down and two more pop up. IE- you can't win. So the goal isn't to sway her now (because you can't), it's to plant seeds that may grow later.
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I’ve really F’ed this up, haven’t I, A/S?
No you are doing fine! Sorry if I made you feel that way! I'm just suggesting tweaks, it's nothing major.
