I didn’t answer just now because I was busy. Is me wanting to call back or answering most of the time she FaceTimes NGS?
Didn't you read the book......you tell us if it is NGS. I think it is partly due to the way she has trained you. I mean, it is so ingrained in you to immediately respond to her, it takes baby steps of postponing and ignoring it until you don't feel the emotional pressure to return her call.
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I want to act as I would If divorced. NC go dark etc. but if we were divorced I would probably call back to talk to my daughter.
Then you need to train her as to what and when you will respond, and check on your little girl. How? I think you are on track, by not jumping to get right back in touch to every every call, or FT on the schedule she sets and not responding to every text from her. I think you will feel a sense of pride and independence.....maybe even a little freedom, once you get a good handle on it.
Keep up the good work.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
