Not sure how this fits in with detaching though ... I am GAL'g and 180'g but we don't seem very detached. In fact, we seem very (unhealthily?) attached to one another for two people who are going through a separation.
I would appreciate any advice as to whether I should carry on like this or whether I should implement consequences (as in "you've left - you don't get to treat this like your house anymore", "you've left - I am not your friend anymore").
That's a tough one. I've made the conscious decision not to text, email, or call my XW unnecessarily. I got off social media. However, I don't avoid physical interaction with her. I've emotionally detached from my XW, but I still find myself trying to make her regret her decision. Probably understandable but not healthy. I'm in good shape, I'm always well-groomed, I always dress nice, I listen, I validate, I try to be attractive. That's a way of trying to make her regret her decision. However, we only see each other 1-2 times/month, so what I'm doing is not giving her what she used to have. My sitch is different than your sitch in that regard. Things will change next summer when we settle in the same town. If you are feeling stuck, you may have to do something drastic. Just don't do it thinking it will change H's mind.
