Is it entirely for me, for my sense of confidence in stating my position and then letting the chips fall?
Burned, one of the struggles we all go through is the feeling that we've lost control. I suspect that may be part of you pushing the D through as well is you want to feel like you're "in control" again. You'll get there eventually, and at that time you may very well decide you DO want to proceed with D. That's exactly what happened to me. I'm not saying that calling her is wrong, but if it were me I would probably just not say anything to her and if she asks I would tell her "I've decided to postpone it for now" rather than saying you decided it's not what you want. If she says how long then just say you don't know and you've got some thinking to do, because that's the truth.
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She'll say, "Well then how do you suggest that we proceed?"
Well, this is the tricky part. You've done all the work so if SHE wants to proceed then there's not really anything to it except file the paperwork.
