You also said "Our plan now is to get our debt paid off". Why is this is a joint plan?
I would not only be liable for half of the debt that was accrued in our marriage, but since I make much more than WW I would be looking at paying alimony/child support.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
The quicker you get strong, stick to your boundaries, and stop letting her eat cake the quicker the damage will stop. I mean this because the IHS is eating you up. The OM is eating you up. You care so much and she doesn't mind hurting you bc she knows she can get away with it. If she doesn't want to move out, I'd consider moving out if I was you. I like the way Davide did that bc it was best for him.
It's destroying me. And I cannot afford another place right now. WW told me she is going to start looking for a place to move out. She also knows that an IHS is doing nothing but causing damage. Old me would try to bargain with her and come to some sort of compromise. I said no such thing this time.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
All this stuff has just been building up inside of you, and you're understandably a little bitter and angry with her. When you truly get away from her, you can get better at letter go of those feelings. I just feel like you're stuck. And believe me, this is not a holier than thou assessment, I'm stuck too. It's facing our fears and letting go of the imaginary control we think we have that is hard to do.
Originally Posted by SoTorn
You are just bringing yourself down. There is a reason the windshield in a car is much larger than the rear view mirror. Because what's in front of us is more important than what's behind us
I am stuck. I am so afraid of change, but I keep telling myself it's for the best interest of D4. She deserves so much better and she is not getting any of it at all. At this point, sacrifices are going to have to be made. If I am not the best Phoenix, I cannot give my best to D4. I know I have been doing the right things, but I have been coming across as vindictive.
I really need to get out. I'm failing hard at DBing. Detaching, GAL. All failed in these last few days. I need to get going again. WW is hurting me. OM is hurting me. WW and OM progressing in their R is really hurting me. This cycle of pain and obsessing about them needs to stop. I am just really struggling with it. So much.
