two steps forward, three steps back (burned)

[burned]

Vapo has the right of it. If she hasn't heard your voice in months call her.

Is it entirely for me, for my sense of confidence in stating my position and then letting the chips fall?

Because other than that I'm not supposed to do anything for the sake of how she will respond. And I was told to just do things rather than say them. And how do I benefit if she hears my voice, if she is presumably repulsed by it/me/anything that has to do with me?

I'm asking these things so I can understand better. My tendency is to just take advice and run with it, so I want to really understand it first. That's a 180 for me.

She'll say, "Well then how do you suggest that we proceed?"

First voice-to-voice interaction since September when she took off her rings and I started backing off. In the meantime we've done all kinds of "negotiating" by text and email. Suddenly I call and say "I don't want this!" And isn't that pursuit? Pressure? Just tells her "I'm still here for this M." "Hi my name is Burned and I'll be your plan B, the M will still be here when you're done playing the field."

I know I'm not getting it. Please help clarify my thinking. Is it because I haven't validated in months, and she needs to hear me say "I respect your wishes"? But then I'm doing it to influence her, not me. Unless it's about being the kind of person who tells other people that he respects them and shows it?! That would be THE 180 she has always wanted since BD.

Sorry, just thinking out loud. Gotta make sure I handle this right.