Oh, I think you're absolutely right about that. I have already discussed most of those points in my last thread regarding dealing with the emotional baggage of my ex. I had basically hidden anything I didn't need to deal with at the time because it was unimportant at that point in my life. I never thought I'd ever have to work on dating my XW so I never dealt with many of those issues. With my IC I worked primarily with the immediate divorce: stuff like codependency and abandonment.

No I don't want to get married right now. I may never. She does want to remarry and I've had to tell her I'm not in that same place. We do have plenty of time, and I do not feel rushed.

Is she tainted? It's not like touching her repulses me, so I don't think so. This is more like, I am suddenly jealous. I never had jealousy issues before, really. Now I do? Yuck. I don't like this feeling. Jealous people cheat. She was always the jealous one.

I have been to an IC quite a lot, but none of it has ever been focused on being with my ex again. I will have to figure out the logistics of getting in to see a MC. We are not on the same insurance, so I need to figure out how it will get paid for. Do they accept halfsies? I dunno.


Save yourself. Nobody is coming!
BD:11/2017
Filed:12/2017
Final: 2/2018