two steps forward, three steps back (burned)

[ovrrnbw]

Vapo has the right of it. If she hasn't heard your voice in months call her. Email is for pansies. Grab ahold of your member, stand up tall and put your shoulders back, and be clear and brief. You are too wordy.

Say exactly what Vapo said:

"Sorry W, I've thought it over and I have come to the realization that divorce is not what I want so I will not file."

And let the chips fall where they may. You validate quickly and get off the phone quickly.

I mean this is the nicest way possible, but you are a stubborn ass to push for D when you don't want that. I have been known to be stubborn too. If you don't want to be plan B, then don't be. You guys don't live together right? Don't talk to her, don't let her cake eat, just go live your life! Kick work in the butt, kick your personal life in the butt, kick butt in the gym, talk to women and have fun! Suddenly you won't be looking so plan B'ish to everyone.