Hey Toenail, just saw this that you posted in another thread and figured I would bring it here to yours to reply to it:
Originally Posted by toenail
^^^ sorry to hijack your thread EZ, but for AS this is where i get lost. As much as I would love D14 to spend time with WW, D14 vehemently refuses and i have to respect her feelings. Do i force her? Do i consequence her if she doesn’t want to? With regards to WW, her reply would just be, “ I know she can never forgive me, and i just have to live with that”. So WW will just wait for time until D14’s anger is resolved? is that how i see it?. Right in front of D14’s IC she firmly said, “I don’t want anything to do with my mother!” Really lost on this.
My apologies again, EZ.
Don't force her to spend time with W if she doesn't want to. It sounds like you have D14 seeing an IC, which is great. This is exactly what IC is for. You might discuss this issue with the C (without your D) and let him/ her explore it with D14 sometime without you or W present. It sounds like your D is having trouble processing her grief and is falling back on hating your W instead of working through it. The IC should be able to help with that.
