Steve...just wanted to say man that I think it's great that you are stepping back and looking back at all the angles of your sitch holistically. Besides being the right thing for you I think, given your stature on these forums many, many others are able to get a much better overall picture of BD/WW, R'ing and the true realities of divorce for each of them in their respective situations.
as I've said before, don't make rash decisions...in effect you are "doing the work" on a macro level now and that's going to take time.
