two steps forward, three steps back (burned)

[burned]

Got it. So in a few days she will text and say "What's the status" and I will give her that response. Then she'll flip out and do the blah blah blah you said you'd do it. She'll accuse me of controlling her by telling her she'll get the money after D and then not doing the D. Then I just stand my ground and say "Well then you know what you need to do" or will that be controlling, too?

Tough love, I guess. But it means I have to swallow the fear that she will then come charging out the door and make it happen.