I really appreciate your candid & kind words. It's amazing to me, when this all went down, I felt I must be first and only person to have experienced the initial hurt, confusion, embarrassment, disappointment, rejection & failure @ BD time & during the subsequent emotional roller coaster that I'm getting motion sick from riding now. Even a lot of the books I read noted similar things but DB hit the nail on the head with so many of my Ws quotes it got me reading and applying principles.
I'm struggling a little with the method of being pleasant, strong & happy around her (which I can do no problem) Vs. being distant & nonchalant when communicating via TXT (which is about all she uses). Previously I had been quite jovial in my messages thinking that's showing I'm in good form and being someone who she "would want to be around" but recently have been a little more terse in my messages. She then responds with have I upset you or being equally terse. I just don't respond to those messages.
I'm working on GAL (I kinda prefer GANL - Get A New Life) as GAL has negative connotations from the old school adage + creating the impression prior life sucked which isn't really the case. But, either way, I'm not trying to re-write Michele's book so working on GAL!
W txt me yesterday asking to have coffee today. I responded yesterday a while after with "I'm busy tomorrow, next weekend maybe?" She later came back with I'm only available Saturday morning which I have not replied to. W is going on another Intl trip for 4 weeks this time, departing after next weekend. I think based on the final part of our conversation at dinner the other week she is looking to discuss moving forward with plans of how to split assets, who is going to live where etc.
I need to decide whether I meet her next weekend or blow her off & not see her until she comes back from her trip. Unfortunately she will be spending a lot of time with a really Toxic friend of hers. Sadly, some of her friends are total sycophants as my W has the ability to totally "treat & spoil" them, though it's not with her own money (Or Mine thankfully).
She hates living at the MIL's place and considering how much she has left behind in the house, I feel she intends on moving back into the house, once I move out. Problem she is yet to discover is I have no intention on moving out!
H:50 (me) W:44 M:12 T:22 BD: 08/2018 W Moved out 08/2018
