I want to start off by saying that I am not picking on you, I am trying to push you to be your best self.
You keep coming here and asking the same questions over and over. You have to participate in your own rescue if you want anything to change. You remind me a lot of a poster named "Ghost " then "Attpeace" who kept asking the same questions and then would never implement any of the good advice given to him. This went on for two years.
I want to start off about your comment about being in the house with your W so you could show her AMOAFWL. How do you think that was working fo you? You spent most of the time hiding in your room when she was home. Do you see what I mean? Now she has no idea what your doing. Do you think she might wonder sometimes?
Now about the birthday. It depends on how you feel. Be true to yourself. In my situation there was no known OM, I was never disrespected by my ex in any way so on her birthday in October I texted her happy birthday. Was not looking for a reaction I am currently in no way trying to get her back I just thought it was the right thing to do.
As far as answering texts, again be true to yourself. If you want to be her friend, servant, handyman after what she has done to you then go ahead and do it. If not, strictly kids and finances.
Lastly you have to step it up to become AMOAFWL. Movies and nachos aren't GAL when you're alone. Instead of walking 5 miles you should be running 5 miles. You have to exercise your mind, body and soul everyday. When you have some time read Maika's thread to model how to do it.
Right now you are stuck and you have to get unstuck. Life can be really $hitty sometimes. Only you have the power to turn it around. It takes a lot of time and hard work. Feeling sorry for yourself will not change anything.
