Whirlwind of Hurt 7

[Twofeet]

LH,

I don't think my W is necessarily in a MLC. I mean there were signs and things she said that might indicate that. From what I can gather it seems like the difference between MLC and WS is that IF they come back at all the WS might be more likely to comeback sooner. My IC who used to see W before W declared herself "healed" doesn't call it MLC. She says W has just regressed to a point in life she feels she missed out on. There is some definite immaturity on W part. In those texts I saw to OM it was like a teenager talking. That in itself blew me away.

I just posted that gentleman's comments because in his search for answers he kept finding a scenario that plays fiddle to my sitch. It gives me comfort to know that this is a common theme, and I am not some PoS that caused this. Anyway, W was my only GF, she had 1 BF before me, but that was like at 14 or 15 and not much substance. Her life was very taken cared of and some of that extended into our MR. Hell when I asked her parents permission to M her father warned me that she was spoiled and that was something I would have to contend with. As he jokingly put it he had a no return policy.

What I do know is that my W has been chasing happiness pretty hard for a while now. Probably since D5 maybe it started as early as after D8. I have been riding that MR ride for a while now and it hasn't been easy. It has made me despise the happy wife happy life mantra. For me it has been happy wife, is happy wife until wife needs to find the next thing to make her happy. Now don't get me wrong I think we had a pretty good MR and we got along great despite our headstrong personalities. However, my own faults and flaws in the MR didn't help our sitch, but I am not sure that it even makes a difference other than to be perfect would only delay the inevitable. Happiness comes from within not from, things, places, or AP.

So WS or MLC? I am not sure it matters what title you throw on it. She left to seek her happiness in a new life, in a AP, and at the expense of our kids/family/MR.