Glad to read the trio is feeling better. I think it’s really good you feel bad for your w. It’s a nice step forward to take to have understanding and compassion. As far as her forgetting the kids medicine, put it down as part of no expectations and an expectation. My ex has got better, but with things like this were an issue I would plan for them which could be tricky not to provoke a monster. Maybe you could send a pill box with them when they go back to help her out. Maybe say you got it to help you remember. I would do things like this w ex so she didn’t take it as me accusing her of being irresponsible. I feel bad for her too, I’m sure she’s not having them miss their meds on purpose.
I will be thinking of you and the trios next week.