FS, your self reflection share was stunning. I've never met someone with such a clear view of their own actions and motivations. I don't think most people ever see themselves as objectively as you do.

As you move forward with your self-improvement - how do you see yourself doing that? I have ingrained habits that I wish to change about myself. I have identified them, but don't know how to change except being aware of them. I try to keep them in the forefront of my mind. Any tips, tricks, or thoughts on this subject?

It seems both you and I have improvements to make that are strongly tied to our past R, but might not show up so much in other relationships with friends/family. So how do we work on our own shortcomings that were in part dependent on the S and how the two of you interacted?