I hope you all slept well last night Joe, especially your XW. It's a new day.
I'm guessing that the phone call with XOM was very difficult for her, even though she sounds like she had no resistence in making that call. It probably dredged up a lot of old confusion and made her wonder why she ever made those past decisions. Also, being yelled at with hateful words is hard on anyone's emotional fortitude. Does she have any real fear of him? Would he ever find his way to your house or her house?
I hope the weekend allows you both some quiet time where she feels safe to "come down" (emotionally).
Giving her space sounds like a good idea. Be sure she understands (tell her with words) you're not leaving, just giving her and yourself some breathing room so you can both walk forward in a healthy way. Emotions block our abilities to read the room, and now is a time that silly misunderstandings could step in.
