Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 3)

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Bo, you handled that like a MFS champion. You used what you learned here to your advantage. When you get your head straight, take a moment to look through those events as you described them and see how she reacted to you. Lots of script, lots of attempts to maintain control, lots of uncertainty about why you didn’t react the way she expected you to.

Vapo’s words sting (he’s keeping me in line), but heed them now and don’t get to the low point that I did. Let the emotions happen when they do but always search for something you can do to stop the emotion train before it derails.

LRT isn’t filing for D. It’s just GAL and 180s and Sandi’s rules. That’s my understanding, at least. Then MWD also mentions “after-LRT” which is similar to “going dark.” I’ve seen it recommended (by Again18 to Twofeet) that once you have physical S you go dark. So, LRT during IHS, then dark if/when she moves out.

Last thing for now. It all reeks of OM. In my case (Phoenix, too, I think), IUD = “I want the absolute best BC that doesn’t involve surgery. In your case there’s a plausible excuse because of NFP and the timing related to YS/PPD/etc. I know a bit about mental heath and I’m fairly certain that PPD does NOT usually involve such dramatic changes in morality and life trajectory and so forth. It’s usually more like apathy. I might be entirely wrong and you may have read and learned something more accurate, but that is my recollection. They used to call it “baby blues,” not “baby freak-out-and-destroy-family.”

Point being, although there’s no confirmation, you appear to be dealing with a WW.

You’re doing great though. Keep it up. Things took a turn but you still have a lot of room to work with. Keep the focus on you, let her do her thing.