Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 3)

[SoTorn]

You just DB. LRT is you filing for D. That's my understanding. Just L up or at least do several consults. I have spoken with five Ls. California is no fault 50 50 assets just like here. However from what I understand they have been unhappy with a spouse having an A and award the BS more leeway.

Just DB DB DB. My WW has literally done nothing. Honestly I am getting very comfortable being single. I am NC, GAL 180 like a mad man waiting for her to file D or set up mediation.

Again though I'm feeling very good about being free. I have done so much GAL. I had no idea life was so fun lol. Make sure you let your emotions out once in a while or you will feel very bad.

Go read all the suggested books. I just started the subtle art of not giving a f**k. Great book. You dont need to stand in front of a mirror and give yourself a pep talk but get out. Go find stuff you love to do and do them.

Fake being happy if you have to while GAL. Plan stuff with the kids. Do fun stuff with them.

You will initially feel like there is no way you will feel better or get rid of the anger but the waves of emotions get further apart and smaller and smaller. The harder you DB and more you GAL speeds that up.

Use your gift of time wisely. Dont waste time dwelling or worrying because it truly does not help anything.

I think you did a good job. Keep it up. You dont need to do favors or chores for her. She just fired you from position of H. AKA she just released you from all responsibilities related to her needs and emotions. That is a burden off your shoulders. Love those kids enough for both of you and love yourself the same. You got this!