Thanks for the thoughts / support. I’ll take your points in the order in which you gave them.
You are correct—Daddy Time is Daddy Time, and I should cherish it, no matter what.
I do need to continue DB’ing, and I’m wondering if now is the time for LRT.
I know W wants a D, and even though that probably won’t be good enough, I still want to try for an annulment if it gets that far. But you’re right—I should think about what it would mean if I can’t get it, but I’d still want to try.
I do teach at a Catholic HS. I don’t believe that civil D is grounds for not teaching in a parochial school. There are D’ed teachers on staff, including my own department. Rather, I brought all that up to highlight my response (trying to keep my wits and stand up for me / MR), as well as her level of concern doesn’t seem sincere. If she really cares about my job then maybe don’t divorce me?
Yeah, I’ll leave it up to the DB vets re: A / OM. I’m not leaving MBR....and the more I think about it, the more ludicrous I find that she wants me to leave MH half-time. She wants out? She needs to leave.
You are correct in the sense that we should agree on it together, and she has said as much. She wants me to review it and is open to (reasonable) suggestions. Not interested in rolling over—and I should probably look at a mediator / consults with other attorneys.
I have read in prior posts that the priority scheme basically becomes 1.) Kids 2.) Me 3.) WAS. That’s basically my mindset going forward.
