Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 3)

[Twofeet]

Bo,

Working backwards.

Free child care in the summer for her means free child care in the summer for you. I'm not in CA, so I dont know how it splits, but here especially with 50/50 custody child care cost are split based on income percentages. Also, free childcare in the summer means bonding with the boys. Remember you are the Dad and these are opportunities to bond in ways many Dads may not have an opportunity to do.

You need to DB your a$$ of cause it isn't over till it's over. You can talk to a priest/committee who heads up the annulments for your diocese to get an idea of the process. You can't (or it's not recommended) apply for annulment until after D. Remember annulment is to prove events up to and at the point the sacrament was taken were not valid. Your W could be having an A or want a D and that's not a valid reason. It not what's happening in the MR now, but prior to M. Its early to talk about it but be prepared for the consequences of what it means if you can't get an annulment. It will rock your faith.

You teach at a Catholic school right? I doubt civil D is grounds for not teaching in a parochial school.

Speeding it through could mean OM. It was likely part of the reason in my sitch. I will leave the exposure of A up to the DB vets. Just dont leave the MBR or the MH. Oh and my W dropped being Catholic, don't be surprised if your W follows suit. In many cases the WAS dropping their faith seems to be one of the scripts.

Sounds like she drew up all the plans, but the way I see it if she wants to be amicable it should be something you both come up with and agree on together. Don't rollover, if something doesn't work for you then come up with an alternative. Take her terms and go get like 3 consults with lawyers. We used a mediator who was a lawyer to keep it out of the court and solve our problems inexpensively. However, I had a few attorneys consult me. One who was a woman who an absolute vicious bullshark.

If the D goes through you just have to do what's best for you and your boys.

Sorry this is happening to you.