We have three mandatory dates in our divorce, everything else is discretionary. I believe he missed the first one a few days ago (I have not heard from my lawyer regarding the filing and she generally forwards everything the moment she receives it, it required our participation in order to prepare it, and the docket does not show the document was filed). This is an important deadline, although the filing is somewhat basic. The rules are very clear how it has to be filled out. My lawyer previously said the parties always cooperate in getting it timely filed because the consequences for missing it are onerous for both clients and their attorneys. This suggests to me that he has stopped cooperating with his attorney.
He has also pulled back in his communication with the children. He did not even wish them a happy new year. Although much more sporadic, it seems less forced and he is now contacting them individually (one by text and the other by email) instead of the meaningless daily group text. He is also being more paternal (did you arrive safely, how is your activity going, when will you be back home, thank you for the thank you card, etc.).
He has not contacted me since we met at his request. Other than his ready agreement to my making a significant purchase, I have not heard from him. He has not done two things to separate our accounts that he told me he would take care of when we met.
Still in limbo. No end in sight. But I don't have the same ominous feeling I had for the last many months (pretty much since he filed and started doing all of his creepy baiting). I feel as though maybe he has reached some plateau where he intends to hang out for a while. All speculation on my part, but the tension feels as though it is gone--for now.
He is going to have to do something in the divorce soon. If he does not agree to something or dismiss in the next couple of weeks then we have to show up at a special hearing before the judge and explain why the filing got missed. If he fails to show then, the court will fine him and dismiss the case.
