I constantly remind myself that I need to remain a kind and dignified person to the best of my ability. Anything less is not personally acceptable.
I admire you setting the bar high.
You are going through something most people could scarcely imagine. If you slip or fall, remember to be kind to yourself as well.
I see nights are the worst times for you. For me it was mornings. In the late evening, I was emotionally exhausted, and therefore more stable. By morning feelings were recharged and full blast again, even with the terrible sleep. I could only get 90 minutes at a time.
This lasted about two to three months, for me.
How are you sleeping? Do you get through the night? Nightmares?
Share or ask whatever you like. This is a safe place, and a trove of knowledge and experience.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.