I am going to book a sit-down with a lawyer and get some initial insight into my sitch. W wants to play nice and amicable and if we can agree to terms that's great, but I am not signing shyt without an experienced lawyer taking a look. I deal with a lot of contracts in my business and W knows I am a stickler for details and look at every sentence, word and period 100 times before I'm done.
On the house thing I am jealous of you AS, while we have a ton of equity we still have a big mortgage and I'm not sure that I can pay W off and handle a refi payment. W can't either, but her parents have $$ and I am betting they will pony up for her to buy me out. Good for the kids to keep the house, bad for me as I have no family resources. Not giving up yet but not looking good.
Can't argue with R2C that W's "new" guy is going to magically appear shortly after D. The further we progress toward D the less impact busting her will be I guess. I need to make a move regarding investigation really soon if I'm going to do it. I notice a lot of people indicate they have made the bust - is there a common preferred method? I never have an opportunity to grab her phone so I am guessing it is PI or voice recorder (illegal where I live). I could do a PI for a few days but unless she has a lot of contact every week with the possible OM it is kind of shot in the dark.
I'm living about halfway across the country from all my family and that is pretty tough. Distance is not as hard when things are going great. I do have a lot of awesome friends and plenty of GAL opportunities, but I would kill to have some family close these days. They don't know yet and they are going to be rocked as divorce does not run the family. Not sure how I even can get through a phone convo with them, it will be excruciating. But it's going to happen, this whole thing is going to happen how it will, and I am going to end up soaring into the future.
