LBS dealing with WW (part 6)

[Joe2017]

Thanks joejoe.

I have not consciously made it my mission to punish her. I can see that it is the case though, whether it is subconscious or somehow purposely.

I am going to make a concerted effort to stop.

I plan on having one more conversation about OM where I tell her she needs to write something up to tell him to never contact her again. We did agree that if he ever contacts her, she will notify me immediately. He did text her this afternoon about the rental, and she did tell me within 2 minutes.

I think she is seriously trying. I need to give her more than I have been giving her. I know this is hard for her too.

I agree with everyone about counseling. I have been to A LOT of counseling, so I know the value in it. Lol, actually my last girlfriend asked me one time during an argument "How much counseling have you been to!!?" when I kept diffusing everything and validating her feelings. Lol. Huh... I miss her sometimes.

Anyhow. I have a lot work to do! But I'm more optimistic today than I have been all week.