And that’s been what’s so hard to process, because I have those words rattling around in my head...her talking about not being sure if she still even wants to be married to me, the possibility of a break or an S......and then she talks about what we should do to the place for the kids, looking into seasonal passes for Disneyland, and all sorts of other stuff.
Right, well that's what they do is throw crumbs out there to get your hopes up. Now and then you'll even see your old W shining through and you'll think "she really is still in there somewhere!" Those are the times when it is very tempting to temp check but when you do you just get the BD talk all over again. She's dead-set on her course even though you may see hints now and then that she isn't.
Originally Posted by Bo562
Last night, she said to YS “you have everything you need here....Mommy, Daddy, big brother....”
Part of the WAS fantasy is that the kids will be unaffected, or may even emerge BETTER OFF than before. So yeah they will say stuff like that as if you are still one big happy family. Of course that's not the case at all, but you can't communicate that to her right now.
If the talk happens just remember she will probably speak in absolutes. I was never happy, it was never meant to be, this is the best for everyone, it would never work, etc. etc. That's what they do. When you hear it just think in your head "script" because that's what it is.
