MLC husband

[marina7]

Kate,

Sorry you are going through this especially when we
LBS young kids.

About MLCers moving fast, oh boy can I see that.

My W
BD April s10 birthday he was turning s9
By April W pretending I did not exist W
Came and went as pleased in 10yrs W
Would go out but will be home at night for the
First time W didn't come home for 2days

I knew it was really over,
By the first week of May I found a lease W rented on April
First week by 2nd week of May W gone, literally one day
While taking Trios to movie, W just took half her clothes and shoes

I came back W was gone couple days later W took a little more clothes
And that was it. Oh yeah W took all savings and some of checking
Left me with less then $300 in bank.

So listen to the vets here to protect all finances I was one of
Those LBS that never thought W would take all the money not my W

So yes they move fast. By June 2017 W took OW to family reunion

So by April BD
By May moved out
By June OW in picture but was there even before BD.

And what I heard from friends W and OW where already living
Together.

So these MLCers are literally nuts. They don't give a crap who is
in there way all they care is about themselves and Other person


Now at bd my kids where S9, D9 and S8

My recommendation as I went through this, don't sugarcoat
Anything, kids are smarter then what we think. Be honest make
Sure both of you are there let H tell them just listen and if H says
Something wrong correct him.

Please please take them to individual therapy also yourself
Also do church groups and check around your area they also
Offer Divorce groups 4 kids this group is only for kids and your
Kids won't feel alone they will see other kids talking about divorce.

You are going to be a superhero mom now is time for you to put that
Super Cape on and become that Mom. Do activities
There is so much free things keep them busy.

I don't have money but I go to library and church anything
They offer free services take it.

We as parents need to listen more DnJ and many here have help
Me with That.

Just validate and listen to your kids. I usually nod my head and say to
Trios am sorry that's happening can I hug you. It shows your kids your there
Remind them when you tuck them in "I am here"

I know this is going be hard trust me but never speak ill or agree
With your child.
My d10 usually says Mom acts like a little girl sometimes I usually
Respond am sorry d10, do you want to talk about it.

I never agree with Trios but I usually just listen.

That has been the hardest but now I am good at it.

I am here when ever you like to vent.

You are safe with us here.