two steps forward, three steps back (burned)

[burned]

Well it's more like Option 4:
"I'm giving you exactly what you asked for, on terms I'm comfortable with."
"You're a controlling a-hole and you're doing this to punish me."

Planting that seed of respect, I guess. It just feels so wrong, like I'm digging the hole even deeper. I know that's just a feeling and not a fact. Counterintuitive, yep.

L thinks I should stop trying to figure out what her angle is, and be somewhat less terse. Last night I said, "I'll transfer the money after the divorce is final." L thinks I could have said, "It is safer for both of us to do the transfer once there is an order in place."

Oh, and IC says it doesn't matter what she thinks, she'll come back or she won't (sounds familiar, hmm). He says, You're using this as an opportunity to practice doing what's right for you, so that you stop being the kind of person who just says "yes dear" and then resents it forever, thereby making you a better husband for someone else in the future.