I did have another thought this morning about the unwelcome message. It could be that the dust is settling and they are both realizing that they no longer have anything in common and yes, the rose colored glasses have broken and they see all the warts, bumps and flaws of what they've done. If you think about it, in the beginning, you were the common denominator in the mess. He was running from his marriage and his relationship w/you. You were the big bad wolf and needed to land somewhere else and that woman was the one that took him in, stroked his ego, and they most likely talked about you a lot. Now, in the current day and time, you no longer are the common denominator because you have nothing to do w/them...so, what can they discuss but themselves and evidently that's not working out. As long as they have that common denominator between them, they will unite as one to support each other...in this case...that is completely gone and what better way to re-ignite that spark...but to text you.
You did the right thing by not responding. They now have to look at themselves and what they've done.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
