Judging by everything that I've learned on this forum, I think if that were the case, they wouldn't come back because we, as the LBS, waiting around and not believing that they are gone for good wouldn't create the necessary changes it takes to "move on" and "make it" that's probably required for most of the WW and WH to realize they screwed up and come out of the fog.
Well yes that is the rub right there. If you do nothing but just try to wait them out then they'll never come back. But get over them and move on and they very well might want to come back, but BECAUSE you've moved on you probably don't want them back. Life is cruel, LOL!
Originally Posted by Wanted1
Originally Posted by burned
2. What is her angle? Someone please explain this to me because it makes no sense. She wants everything except the divorce. What other cake can she eat? Is it not clear to her that the M is over?
Probably wants the money that she is claiming is the settlement now and then when she files she can go after more for the actual D settlement. My WW initially told me she doesn’t want any property settlement. That money wasn’t important to her. Boy, when I read her first proposal this past weekend she showed that she can perform 180s too. SMFH.....
My ex did something like this as well. All during D talks she talked about how she wanted to be fair. She drew up the papers, I reviewed them and actually she was pretty fair. Then when it was signed by both of us and set to be recorded with the court she decided I owed her more money. Something like 7k? Her reasoning was a bunch of rambling incoherence that looked like it was written by a 3-year-old learning to write with a crayon. I mean literally it was unreadable, I could not decipher what she was saying. I called her and told her I didn't understand it and asked if we could meet so she could explain it to me. In one of the few instances where she showed real anger post-BD she went postal and said "we will just let the lawyers sort it out in court then, and believe me, it will not go in your favor." And she hung up on me. Up to that point she was content to work things out between the two of us. I was trying to get the D finalized so I could proceed with a business deal, and frankly her show of crazy had me spinning like I had been BD'd all over again. The thought of months of protracted court battles and lawyer fees had me going through anxiety all over again. In the end I told her I didn't understand her reasoning and would have appreciated an explanation, but if she felt it was fair then I would sign it so go ahead and revise it. And that was the end of that, and I have zero regrets for capitulating on it.
Anyway, I guess the point is don't believe anything they say until the paperwork is signed and filed.
