two steps forward, three steps back (burned)

[joejoe1]

Burn,

If your W asked you go to M counseling and you said no, that's your fault. Instead of blaming her for not asking again, you need to take ownership for saying no. She tried in that moment and you weren't willing. That's the facts for that moment.

People who have been hurt by a lover, spouse, GF/BF, most of the time don't look past that hurt and the person that did the hurt. Most people aren't afraid to love, after they are hurt by another person they still want to feel love again. But instead of loving again, people that have been hurt put more energy into worrying about focusing on not being hurt again. Life is full of risk. Love is no different. So you thinking you won't love another the same way you love your WW, is not true, but you will love them differently with more awareness.

Our WS hurt us, but we tend to hurt ourselves more by not focusing on our own healing.

Onward and Forward