My updated manifesto. For GAL activities I'm planning a trip to El Salvador with a co-worker later this month.
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LIFE GOALS – A BETTER ME
This season of my life has been tough. Use the pain to become a better man, a better father, and a better Christian. Control what I can control to become that better man every day for the rest of my life. I control my own happiness. Things will get better. God has great plans for me. I will survive. I am not a loser. I am lovable. I deserve to be loved.
1) FAITH. Strengthen my relationship with God. Draw closer to Him. Continue to read the Bible and other Christian resources. Continue with fellowship at work. Regularly, attend church. Regularly, go on missions trips. (Goal: Join a serving Life Group.)
2) KINDNESS. Continue to volunteer a lot. Continue random acts of kindness. Always be humble and kind. Always do what I feel is right. (Goal: Be kinder when I'm driving.)
3) FORGIVENESS. Do not be mad at XW. She just wants to be happy. I am the one who largely failed her. Forgive her.
4) ATTRACTIVENESS. Always dress nice. Always look nice. Get my swagger back. Get back to being an alpha male. Be confident, upbeat, relaxed, and fun.
5) RELATIONSHIPS. I avoided the big mistakes in my marriage (abuse, cheating, work/life balance, being a bad parent, etc.), but I made a lot of little mistakes. Identify and improve on the little things I could have done better.
a) Connectedness. Always treat my SO as my best friend. Enjoy and appreciate time spent together. Do little and big surprises. Date nights. b) Communication. Listen to my SO, actually hear what she is saying. Learn her love language. Study her. Learn what makes her tick, what her concerns are. Use resources like The Love Dare, Divorce Remedy, etc. to better myself. c) Attitude. Don't overreact to nagging. Nagging shows my SO is still invested in the relationship. Be positive, patient, and forgiving.
6) FATHERHOOD. Continue to be fully invested in my relationship with my daughters. Continue to use resources to better myself as a father.
7) LIFESTYLE. Continue to exercise (walking, push-ups, sit-ups, squats, curls) and diet. (Goal: Stay below 165 pounds.) Continue to get eight hours of sleep. Continue to quit chewing. Continue to re-engage with family and friends. Grow my circle of Christian friends.
8) BE MYSELF. Get back to doing things that I like.
a) Golfing. b) Outdoors (camping, fishing, hunting). c) Traveling. (Goal: Visit all 50 states.) (Goal: Visit all 6 habitable continents.)
9) GROW. Try new things. Become handier around the house. Be more self-reliant. (Goal: Become a better cook.) Maybe try sky diving and/or salsa dancing.
DAILY GOALS
Exercise (60 pushups, 120 situps, 120 curls, 60 squats, planks for 2 minutes, walk for 1 hour) and diet. Read the Bible and another self-help book. Daily SOAP. Talk to at least one family member or friend . Talk to the girls as often as possible. Stay positive when interacting with others, optimistic for my future, and cordial (never act on emotion) with XW. Pray for a positive future for myself and the girls. Pray to have the strength to forgive XW.
LONG-TERM GOALS
Join a serving Life Group. Be kinder when I'm driving. Stay below 165 pounds. Visit all 50 states. Visit all 6 habitable continents. Become a better cook.
For GAL activities I'm planning a trip to El Salvador with a co-worker later this month.
